The first thing I would do is teach you to stop judging yourself about the behavior. To judge your addictive behavior or any other behavior only makes matters worse. It is our judgment of the problem that makes us so miserable and unhappy. Whether with eating too much, drinking too much or gambling too much— learn to accept yourself.
Be accepting and loving with yourself even though you have learned these unhealthy “ways” to try to feel safe. You need to love yourself so you can begin your journey toward self-realization.
Next, you need to become aware of your anxiety. When you feel you must “gamble” or “turn on the tube” or “jump up and wash the dishes”— stop. Sit down and stop. Allow yourself to feel what is going on inside of you when you don’t do your addictive behavior.
What you will feel, if you sit still long enough, is your anxiety.
When you feel like gambling is the time to do your anxiety reduction and relaxation exercises. Do these behaviors instead of gambling. You will save a lot of money and feel much more self-confident if you do.
We carry huge amounts of anxiety in our body. This is the reason we are so rigid, unhealthy and miserable. If we would just let our real fear flow, we would face new fears each day and groove right on down the river.
Life is a series of facing more and more fears. If you are looking for a guarantee that you won’t fall, get sick, be judged or displease someone, forget it. That is never going to be reality! The world is a mess out there. It works better if you accept reality and cope with how irrational everyone is.
The more relaxed you are, the more you respond appropriately to any real physical danger. Trust your relaxed body to response correctly to any and all situations. Your body knows what to do. Body wisdom is the reason your real fear is important. You need to feel what you are really afraid of and honor it.