6. Accept your current, overweight self with love.
Use understanding and compassion. Cultivate these qualities and give them to yourself. When you accept yourself right where you are, you feel better.
This act of self-acceptance is what begins the movement. There is an alive, vital person inside of you who wants to be free. Your real emotional self wants to have fun, play and enjoy life. You want to rock!
7. Remember: Your situation is not bigger than life; it is your life.
Since it is your life, you can solve your real problems. You can have fun along the way toward more self esteem and more relaxation. Do not exaggerate the out of control problem or your helplessness, instead face your real problems and deal with facts.
8. Focus on how you eat.
This is a test to see and find what is the source of your overweight problem. See how successful you can be with eating in a healthy, relaxed fashion. Note any discomfort and be honest with yourself. Do not fool yourself if you want to be thin, strong and healthy.
Focus on how you eat, not what you eat. Eat what you want and make it special. Sit down to eat with candle light, even for lunch.
Take a deep breath and relax your physical body. Remember you are accepting what is, without judgment. Eating is fun. Smile at yourself in the mirror at the thought of something funny about the situation. I know this is funny to you. This is one of your best qualities; you can always find something comical about “The Overweight Mess!”
Enjoy the food you are going to eat. What a concept. You enjoy eating very much. So slow down and eat as if you loved your food. Eat your food as if it loves you back. Chew it slowly and deliciously. Eating is a sensuous experience. Eating can be orgasmic.
Do not swallow your food until it is chewed up completely. Chew at least 32 times. Savor all the flavor and tastes and textures. Chew it thoroughly, then swallow.
Do not take another bite until this chewed up food hits your stomach. Slow down.
Once it lands in the stomach then take another deep breath and look around you and feel your body in the chair and be grateful for such a delight as being able to eat good food so many times a day. What a trip, what a delightful thing we need to do and get to do. Gratitude is a wonderful aspect to entertain at this point in your meal. Invite Her often to eat with you.
Then put some more of this great tasting divine food in your mouth. Chew it ever so slowly and thoroughly, while relaxing as many of your muscles as you can in your whole body. Feel your physical sensations and any emotional sensations that occur. Again do not take a new bite until the chewed up bite enters your stomach. Stop to take a breath between each bite. Again look around and be grateful for the pleasure of being human.
You will experience discomfort and anxiety when you first attempt to eat this slow. This is excellent.
Now you are becoming aware of the source of your overweight problem. Anxiety! Fear! Scary Emotions! This is the source of your overeating problem. You are anxious and fearful.
Anxiety is what makes you eat too fast and too much in the first place. You are becoming aware of the anxiety that makes you eat too much. You must reduce the anxiety in your body and nervous system if you want permanent weight loss.