You are binding your anxiety when you do anything that keeps you from directly experiencing your anxiety and fear. Anxiety and fear are both empowering experiences most people have several times a week. If you don’t feel anxiety and fear as you move through life, you are binding your anxiety and keeping it unconscious.
To be mentally healthy, you need to experience reality directly and move through uncomfortable feelings and emotions all the time. This happens naturally and normally as you become more accepting and loving of your emotional self and body.
Back to your OCD behaviors. Unfortunately, none of your obsessive-compulsive behaviors keep you safe. However, you think they do. Your belief and comfort is extremely important to keep in focus if you want a positive outcome. Your obsessive thoughts and behaviors are not bad or wrong. They are simply not productive. Your rituals don’t empower you or keep you safe. But that’s ok, you can use your rituals, which humans have used for centuries, to break free and become stronger as you learn to reduce your anxiety naturally and become more assertive.
What you need to learn to give up your OCD are more forceful and powerful behaviors that keep you safe in relationships. These behaviors will help you self-actualize as you separate from your parents and family. For example, you feel much safer and stronger when you have the ability to say, “No” and “Yes” anytime it is needed to anyone at any time. Yes, this assertive behavior is hard to do and takes practice through out your life. Begin now, start small and get better and better at it!
If I had to pick one skill set that everyone in the world needed, it would be hard to choose between learning how to relax and learning how to be assertive. You need both skills to be mentally and emotionally healthy. Children are trained not to be assertive. Yet, every adult needs to be assertive in order to be effective and powerful in the world. So when you grow up you must get the education you need by taking Assertiveness Training courses often to stay in tune.
Once you know how to cope effectively with anxiety, you will be able to use your OCD behaviors to help you desensitize your irrational anxieties as they occur, in real life. Once you have learned to reduce your anxiety naturally in the moments of your life, you have the ability to face your real fears. Enjoying life is a process of learning how to stay relaxed in this sexist, racist, classist world we live in.
To Get Started:
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