You may be just like me, confused and puzzled about what you are feeling in the moment and afraid to feel your emotions. I learned to hide my hurt and not cry when I felt like crying. I acted like I had not been hurt and didn’t care, creating a serious chip on my shoulder.
Was your fear and anger welcomed by mother, dad or teachers? Probably not. Many psychologists, teachers and researchers still call hurt, fear and anger negative emotions. Some even label them- toxic emotions.
Negative and toxic emotions do not exist.
All emotions are essential for emotional health and wellness. In order to use your Emotional Intelligence you need to use Emotional Healing Therapy to achieve Emotional Health and Wellness.
Negative and toxic knee jerk reactions DO exist.
When you react to situations, you are defensive and closed. Defensive responses can be mean and nasty. When you are closed, you are not feeling your genuine emotions, you are avoiding them. Being stuck in an automatic knee jerk reaction occurs because you feel threaten, anxious and insecure.
You cannot reach an emotion or feeling by thinking.
You must be in a feeling state in order to access emotions.