Even after learning how to relax my body and using Relaxation Therapy in the office for several years, I still was not a conscious breather. My relaxation and breathing were much improved and yet I did not know if I was breathing or not at any moment in time. Once you master a reliable relaxation response you can work on becoming a conscious breather as you move through your day.
First, you need to learn how to use Relaxation Therapy so you have the skill to relax when you want to and need to. You need a relaxation response that you can use to desensitization your anxieties. Relaxation Therapy by itself is limited. You want to use your relaxation response to consciously reduce your anxieties.
Systematic Desensitization uses a reliable relaxation response to decondition your anxiety. Unlearning anxious responses can be accomplished in real life as you live your life. You can also use your imagination, which in some studies is even more effective than real practice, to unlearn your anxious reactions.
When you are successful unlearning a certain anxiety, the nervous energy in your body and nervous system begins to disappear. You feel the tensions go away and the anxiety disappear. You become relaxed and comfortable. You know you are safe and all is well.
You will be pleasantly surprised to find that you are no longer anxious in a situation that used to make you anxious. It is a wonderful feeling to be spontaneous and comfortable in new situations as you slowly and consciously reduce your anxiety. Your comfort in the world continues to expand as you use Relaxation Therapy and breathing to expand your world.
You will enjoy using Relaxation Therapy your whole life as you face more fears and get rid of more anxieties. See yourself being able to kick back and relax as needed to keep you and your loved ones safe and sane.