The Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships
| An Unhealthy Relationship is Based on “Caretaking” Behaviors | A Healthy Relationship is Based on Loving Behaviors |
|---|---|
| You give energy to another person, expecting something back in return | You give energy freely, with no expectations, strings or conditions |
| You withhold love if he does not do as you want | You love her when she does not do as you want |
| You whine and complain | You stand up for yourself |
| You are not responsible for yourself, you want the other person to be responsible for you | You are responsible for yourself |
| You try to control her behaviors to make you more comfortable | You allow him the freedom to be himself, even if it makes you uncomfortable at times |
| You seek his or her approval | You do not need approval |
| You are passive and aggressive | You are assertive |
| You relate in an unequal way to your partner–as if you are less valuable or more valuable than he or she | You relate equally to your partner, knowing you are both of equal value |
| You do not know what you really feel emotionally | You share and express your emotions to your partner |
Copyright, 2011, Doris Jeanette
