From an Alternative Therapy, Holistic Psychology Point of View
Love Relationship Question
My boyfriend hates my mother even though I have tried to convince him that she doesn’t hate him. How do I deal with the depression surrounding this type of situation? Words of anger have been exchanged already. I should add that he is 38 and I am 28.
Love Relationship Advice Answer
This is a great question and presents a real conflict.
First let me say, everyone, even your boyfriend, is just like our mother and father.
From the moment of birth (even in the womb) we absorb, like amoeba’s our environment.
This means whatever was around us is now inside of us. Any anxiety, depression and judgment that was or is in your environment is highly contagious and is now inside of you.
For example, your mother’s anxiety is now in the lining of your stomach and in your brain cells. (Thank goodness, we also absorb the good stuff!!)
This means, whatever aspects of your mother your boyfriend hates, he will also hate them in you. It is a given you are like your mother, as he is like his mother. None of us can escape physical reality, emotional reality or learning.
Your boyfriend obviously has a lot of judgments and a great deal of trouble loving others as they are. This not an usual problem for humans. We all have the judgment plague!
Since no one is perfect I always suggest you work on improving your relationship, rather than leaving the relationship. You will probably get in the same hot water with someone else if you do not improve your self esteem right now.